Everything is in full bloom. Forward, march. Full steam ahead. It feels like I’m sprinting through the year already. A little over a week ago, I was enjoying the last remnants of my summer vacation. Now, I’m steeling myself for tough academic days, working 2 jobs, athletics, and extra-curricular activities. I feel accustomed to everything, having already gone through a year of college.
It’s invigorating. Some people would get swamped, people with a lower stress resilience (learned this in abnormal psych). I see things as a challenge, a challenge that I take head on. Managing my time has grown from a weakness to a pinpoint science for me. Juggling schoolwork, athletics, meetings, and jobs has become second nature.
Overcoming these blockades only stimulates me to reach for more. Successfully managing my time is satisfying. Achieving my goals makes me smile.
Driving home from school, I stopped at a red light. There was a homeless woman standing on the middle divider, sign in hand. She was wearing jeans, a jacket, most likely a t-shirt under that jacket, and a large women’s hat, the kind that covers your face as well as your neck. It was about 95 degrees outside. I was hot just sitting in my car. This woman was outside in the sun with a jacket on.
I was far back in the line and was hoping to give her a couple dollars, but she kept her place at the head of the line. A rather large SUV was right next to her, waiting for the light to turn green. After about a minute, I notice the SUV’s driver side window slowly roll down. I was expecting a hand to come out and hand the woman a crumpled dollar bill, but rather the person driving the SUV handed the homeless woman a bottle of water.
Such a powerful action. Seeing the homeless woman take the water and start gulping it down.. it made me realize. She was probably dehydrated from the heat and from just not drinking enough water. Something so simple and readily available for privileged people like you and myself was so needed and appreciated by this woman.
I didn’t get a chance to see who was driving the SUV, but thank you for being a good Samaritan.
I swear.. if I got $5 for every time I see a post on Tumblr dealing with how a guy should treat a girl, I’d have at least enough money to pay off a year’s tuition. I rarely ever see a post on how girls should treat guys. I didn’t know us girls were so flawless that we don’t need to be reminded. Guys deserve to be happy too. Guys deserve to feel loved too. Guys deserve to be worth your effort too. So before you start moping around about how “poor” your guy is treating you, how about you reflect on how you’re treating him?
Don’t be a bitch. Plain and simple. Quit bitching about every damn thing that he does “wrong”. What’s wrong to you might be right to him, and vice versa.
If he upsets you, let him know that. Not all guys are able to read in-between the lines when you say the notorious “nothing”. Some guys just take that and go with it. If something is wrong, then talk to him about it. Problems don’t solve themselves.
Try not to be so jealous and insecure. Sure, we’re all humans and little things make us tick. But the next time you feel your jealousy/insecurity sparking, just pause and think for a bit. He’s with you, isn’t he? If he’s a decent guy, (which he most likely is or you would have no reason to date him, unless maybe you’re crazy or something) then he’s all about you. There are no other girls in the equation. Stop being so paranoid. He most likely is as faithful to you as you are to him (which hopefully is completely).
Spontaneously let him know that you love him (only if you mean it, of course). It doesn’t have to be at the “right time” or anything. Things are always cuter when they’re least expected.
Instead of sitting by the phone, waiting for him to text/call first, beat him to it. As much as you like receiving good morning texts or late night phone calls, he probably likes them just as much. Texting him will take no more than one minute of your life. It’s a small gesture to let him know you’re thinking about him.
Guys like to be all macho and whatnot, but remember, they’re still human. Be there for him when he’s at his lowest. If he doesn’t wanna talk about it, don’t pry. Take him out to help him get his mind off of whatever it is. If he does talk about it, intently listen. Give him advice if you feel that it’s necessary. Remember: advice, not orders.
If he had a long day and comes home from work exhausted, give him a massage. Make him feel relaxed. Ease his pain and stress; don’t add on to it.
Smile when he does something you think is cute. Thank him when he goes out of his way to do something for you. Never forget to show your appreciation for him.
“I’m on my period,” should not be the excuse for everything. If you’re really that scary when you’re on your period, restrain from seeing/talking to him as much. He’s not the reason why you bleed out of your reproductive organ monthly so he shouldn’t have to put up with the consequences of it.
We all love food. We all like receiving food. If you can, drop him off some lunch while he’s at work or take him out to dinner. I’m sure your man would like the role change from time to time.
Agree to go play football, basketball, baseball, whatever with him; even if you’re one of those girls that think shopping is a sport. If he can watch a chick flick for you, then you can run around all sweaty for him. If requiring you to be active is a serious never-happening, then at least watch the Superbowl or some games from March Madness with him.
Be understanding. Not one person is perfect. You aren’t and neither is he. Cut him some slack. People make mistakes, people miss deadlines, people forget things; it’s human nature.
Seriously, the list is endless. Sure, guys need to work at pleasing us girls. But at the same time, we need to do the same. As a wise person once said, “Give and you shall receive.”
Please help my friend’s aunt has been missing since this morning. An armed robbery took place today and a carjacking too at the plant in San Jose. If you have any information please call the police or Tulam Lu at 408-886-0242.
On this day just 10 years ago, people boarded a plane, went to work, said bye to their parents as they got dropped off at school, and went about expecting a normal day. No one expected a terrorist attack but it happened. No one expected the Twin Towers to come crashing down, but they did. No one expected to lose a parent, a friend, a sibling, but they did.
Life is unpredictable. I never expected my dad to have a heart attack, but he did. I thank God that he’s still with me here today. Through the twists and turns of life, one can never really see what’s around the next corner.
It’s terrifying not knowing what is in store. What we as humans fear most is the unknown. Why are we scared of the dark? Because we don’t know and can’t see what’s there. It’s the whole reason religion began and folklore and mythology was told, to explain the unexplainable.
Yes, it’s cliché, but it’s true. You never know when your time will come. Live everyday like it may be your last.
To those who lost your lives in the horror of September 11th, may you all rest in paradise and know that you are remembered. To the firemen, policemen, medics, and other helpers who gave their all, and some even their lives to aid others, you are honored, and know that your efforts and sacrifices were not made in vain.
My mom has always been strict with my brother and me about our dental hygiene. Sometimes it was really annoying, but hey, it’s for the best.
I was driving home with my mom in the car, and she was just telling me about how she had gone to the dentist to get some dental work done. Then she goes on to tell me how growing up in Vietnam, she never cared about her teeth and took her dental hygiene for granted. Well, it wasn’t so much that she didn’t care, but more like she didn’t know. My grandmother just told her to brush her teeth with salt, which actually makes the gums recede. My mom never knew what toothpaste was until she came over to the States.
At that moment, my mom seemed so.. real. She had experiences growing up as a kid that shaped who she is today, just like anyone else. It was one of those, “Ahh, I understand and I see where you’re coming from” moments.
.. This doesn’t seem as profound writing it down, but whatevs. I had a moment with my mom talking about teeth.
I was looking through old emails & came across one that my aunt sent me after I graduated. Along with a congratulations note, she gave me some words of wisdom that I thought I should share with everyone…
Continue to learn & challenge yourself. Never become complacent because there will always be someone waiting to take your spot.
Never assume you’re the smartest person in the room. You can learn something from every single person you meet.
Take away a “lesson learned” from every situation & experience in your life, whether it be positive or negative. You will find these more useful than anything you ever learned in a classroom.
Life can change in the blink of an eye. Make a conscious effort to live in the present & be thankful for all of your blessings, big & small. Show your life & appreciation for the people in your life because you never know what the future holds. Take no one & nothing for granted.
Take care of your body — you only get one! It’s easy to feel invincible when you’re young, but time catches up quickly. Eat & drink thoughtfully, get sleep, exercise, don’t smoke & take time each day to quiet the mental noise.
Remember where you came from. You would not be here today if it weren’t for your parents, your brothers, extended family & friends. Always treat them with love & respect because when the world turns its back on you, they will be the only ones to stand by you.
No matter what you choose to do with your career & life, find a way to serve others so that you leave this world a better place. One person can make a huge difference.
Be smart with your finances. Avoid debt, live within your means & save for the future.
Be mindful that you can’t control everything & sometimes you have to accept a situation by means of necessity. Learn how to let go & continue moving forward.
Have fun! If there’s anything I learned along my journey, it is to be joyful - laugh often & enjoy yourself. You want to look back on your life & have no regrets.
Shit. I was looking at some old documents trying to find a place where I made my speech about myself and I stumbled across this speech. I decided to read it over again and I could seriously feel the tug on my heart strings. That’s the way a speech should be when you graduate. Capable of evoking laughter, cherished memories, and school pride all in one. I love Bellarmine and the experience I got from going to my high school.
I’ll just leave this here on my blog so I can always look back to it.